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stancheung75
01-03-2010, 04:10 PM
I'll be doing a workshop for the Maryland Chapter on Thai Yoga Massage.
Other than the activation of the human sen (meridian) lines, energy rebalancing, relaxation, myofascial release, assisted yoga stretching. A very unique point to what makes TYM so special is the emphasis on developing a spiritual bond with the partner and the universe. To do this, it helps to do a pre massage meditation focusing on Metta, or loving kindness.


This ancient meditation, taught by the Buddha himself, brings unconditional love to your Self, your loved ones and even learn to send unconditional love to your least favorite people. Visualizing a beautiful green light around your heart chakra encourages open and encompassing love that leaves you feeling good through and through!

Mettā (Pāli) or Maitrī (Sanskrit) means unconditional and unattached loving kindness. It is one of the ten pāramitās of the Theravāda school of Buddhism, and the first of the four Brahmavihāras. The mettā bhāvanā (cultivation of mettā) is a popular form of meditation in Buddhism, practiced with mindfulness of breath, which provides concentration, so as to prevent the loss of compassion.

sit in a comfortable position with your eyes closed.

bring your attention to your breath
allow your body to relax. If you feel any tension imagine it disappear when you exhale.

Take a deep breath in.

exhale negative emotion anger, self criticism, failure, fear, aggression.

inhale positive energy kindness generosity love compassion forgiveness enter your body

repeat several time till you feel more positive.

focus inwardly on the center of your upper chest.. This is the cent of compassion emotion breath into the point. Feel this energy flow into this area. Direct energy int Metta that radiate from this.

Continue to breath positive energy into the chest. Exhale metta towards the universe.

Wish well to yourself for a few minutes. Feel the energy into center of chest flowing over you.

Direct this feeling toward someone else that you feel very positively to. Form energy into your chest and direct it toward this person.

Direct this feeling of metta toward someone very neutral. someone you don't know that well.

Direct this feeling of metta toward someone you have negative feelings for. Someone you don't like very much.

At first you might feel there is a closure in your chest. a block in breath or energy if this is towards your enemy. Picture this flow is real energy and continue to send it out toward this person.


Begin to expand this flow of energy of loving kindness to friends family and wider contacts.

Now begin to send this flow to the people of your town or city.

Begin to send this flow to the people of your country.

Finally extend this flow of energy to the whole world.

Now gently draw focus to yourself.

Observe the way you feel at this moment.

When your ready gently open your eyes and take in your surroundings.

when your first practice. you might not feel metta right away. Continue to practice and it will grow stronger.

you might find that sending the energy towards the person you feel negative about is too difficult. You might feel a total block. You might want to choose someone else. You'll find the way the emotion and body opens up to this person and it might be easier to go back to original choice. You might notice a difference in the attitude in the person as you continue.

Mindas Arran
01-03-2010, 08:01 PM
The concept of unconditional love is something I can't seem to wrap my head around... It's part of my big hangup with reiki. I'll try this meditation when I get home from work. If it can get me feeling the love after 11 hours in a factory, it will be nothing short of miraculous! :D

RyuJin
01-03-2010, 08:05 PM
it's a hard concept to grasp at first(unconditional love), sometimes it takes years and years just to begin to understand, even then it can take longer to actually experience...

Mindas Arran
01-04-2010, 08:02 AM
So I tried it, but it felt very.... dishonest? I tried to imagine "unconditional love" for people that I don't really know all that well, but what kept popping up was "What did they do to deserve it?" I can't even see unconditional love existing for people that I do care about, much less for people that I hate (for which, even during a meditation exercise, all I tone it down to was a seething sort of contempt).

Charles
01-04-2010, 08:49 AM
back when I was doing the meditation thing it would take hours to achieve positive results. I think it always feels kinda "fake" when you start out. On the other side of that I think everything works that way. When you do your first push up your brain says "this isn't working, this isn't helping" when you do your 100th push up your brain says "wow look how much I can do".

I remember my first LONG open eyed meditation. For the first 20 minutes my brain was there firing off sufficient doubt to make me give up the whole thing.

Looking back on it I can say now I understand more of that and how and why the mind works that way. I'm not saying meditation is "the greatest thing ever" mind you. I don't honestly do enough of it now to even take a "pro meditation" stance. I can say though that the reluctance is from the same root. Meditation, push ups, shadow boxing, its all the same.

Worse yet, just like an exercise you've done a ton of after months and months you have to PUSH yourself to do it more than before. Meditation is similar in that way also. I remember a time when I meditated an hour every day (as well as exercised an hour every day haha) and I remember what a struggle it was to meditate, then train some days because your there going "I'm bored, I don't need meditation or exercise, I need chees cake"

My advice though, do a mix up. If you must try this meditation do it after you've already broke your "hesitation barrier" by doing some extreme push exercises. Get your body nice and worn out so your brain can't interfere. Do some heavy running or something like that, something you can REALLY wear yourself down with.

Heck even now if I choose to meditate I use my exercise to break that barrier. I don't do a "universal love" meditation, I'm not a universally loving kinda guy haha. But if I must meditate I do it AFTER I'm worn down enough that I'm not second guessing myself.

Just my advice though bro, it's like the difference between ibuprofin and motrin. One might work for you and one might not. Neither might work at all. I can only tell you what I've observed.

stancheung75
01-04-2010, 02:50 PM
Mindas Maybe the term "unconditional love" is uncomfortable to you. Maybe it would help if you change it to "loving kindness" instead.

The meditation starts off with radiating the energy to yourself first and only then can you radiate it towards others.

I'm sure there are people who can benefit from Metta you radiate: wife, daughter, good friend who told you a good joke. I'm sure your awesome energy flowing around makes this universe just one step towards being greater.

But if it's not your cup of tea then that's cool too. It's just one path to get your spirit "in tuned", for lack of better term. Some people get it by working out, doing forms, painting pictures.

But I do want to thank you for giving it a try. I respect your opinion even more because you did give it a go. Instead of making blind statements. That makes you a good person in my book.

Just in case you do want to continue with Metta Meditations and still "bumpy" on it. I would like to offer you a little jump start...."MINDAS, I UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE YOU!!!" (no kisses dude)

I think it's safe to say I'm not the only one who can state they unconditionally love you too.

RyuJin
01-04-2010, 07:43 PM
to love others unconditionally you must first love yourself unconditionally...one method of achieving this is to find just 1 thing about yourself that you absolutely love and focus on that one thing, stoking the "fire" if you will...in time move on to people close to you ie. wife, child, or other family member...and do the same thing find that 1 thing to focus on...eventually you will be able to find 1 thing about anyone you meet...i used to be the kind of person that absolutely hated everyone and everything...i was always alone by choice...everywhere i looked i could easily find something to hate....i didn't have the greatest childhood when compared to some...however one day i simply changed...instead of remembering all the bad things from growing up i started remembering the good things...instead of remembering the abuse i started remembering the moments of love...eventually i learned how to direct my thoughts and how to find the positives even in the most dire circumstances....now i can find the good in everything....it's a process that sometimes takes a lifetime...

Moonshadow
01-04-2010, 10:39 PM
Unconditional love is the easy part. Meditation is the hard part. :p

--Moonshadow

Charles
01-05-2010, 07:28 AM
See, maybe Mindas has the problem I do. Maybe he can't fathom loving even himself unconditionally. If I woke up from a dream one day and found I'd slaughtered all my friends and those I love I'd hate myself for all times sake. Therefore I can not love myself unconditionally. I love me so long as I fit within certain parameters I've given myself, and the same for all others around me, when I or someone else falls FAR outside those parameters (it's a sliding scale with a lot of room on it) then I begin to love me or them less and less. If they fall far enough off the scale (or if I do) then I begin to fall into other emotions.

Doesn't mean I won't try to bring them back to what I perceive as "Right" but I will give up given enough time, trial, and effort. Makes Universal love hard.

That is not all that helpful though so instead I present the next idea that may be helpful.

Why not instead focus on the feeling of love while focusing on ourselves. Just put the mind on those two things. Don't use the word unconditional, don't use the word loving kindness. Just remember the greatest moment of love you've ever felt and then focus that FEELING on your target *be it you for the charge up or someone else*.

I've found a meditation using THAT method can bring one close to tears of joy, but that is in my experience.

AdamGolfer
01-08-2010, 08:57 AM
This topic can actually be quite in-depth as there is more reasoning behind the lovingkindness then I have time to explain right now. I'll post more this weekend but if you are truly interested in the topic check out the book LovingKindness by Sharon Salzberg, it changed my life for the better and really started my journey into Buddhism, for me. There is more to it to address what has been raised, about people that have committed great atrocities and such. I'll chime in more this weekend when I have a little more time.